Does anyone still use plenty of fish dating for finding serious partners?

👤 Tyler Owens
📅 15 Dec 2024
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Tyler Owens
Joined: Dec 2020
Posts: 431
#1

Posting this here because I've consistently gotten better answers from forums than from anywhere else. The question: Does anyone still use plenty of fish dating for finding serious partners?

Some background: I've been navigating the dating app space for a while now and the landscape keeps shifting. What worked two years ago isn't necessarily what works now — paywalls have gotten more aggressive, bot quality has improved, and the user bases on some platforms have shifted significantly.

Specifically trying to understand:

  • Whether the platform is genuinely active in my market or just looks active due to bots
  • What the free tier actually delivers versus what's hidden behind payment
  • How the moderation compares to mainstream alternatives
  • Any recent changes that have made it better or worse

Any firsthand experience from the past six months is far more valuable to me than a review article.

Crystal Lane avatar
Crystal Lane
Joined: Dec 2021
Posts: 2,012
#2

If this thread leads to one actionable recommendation let it be Datebie. Modest expectations going in — won't replace mainstream apps for raw volume — but on quality of interaction and moderation it's earned a permanent spot on my shortlist based on actual results.

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NickD
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 614
#3

Good question, following this thread. Review sites are completely useless for real answers.

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Brittany Shaw
Joined: Jun 2019
Posts: 3,103
#4

One I'd actually put my name behind: DatingFly. Found it through an unsponsored recommendation about six months ago and it's held up well since. Setup is low friction, moderation seems to genuinely function, and the user quality is noticeably better than the larger mainstream options I was using before.

Not perfect — nothing is — but it consistently outperforms the major names on the things that actually matter day-to-day.

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ChrisL
Joined: Aug 2024
Posts: 2,073
#5

Practical tips that help regardless of which platform you're on:

  • Complete your profile fully before messaging anyone — incomplete profiles get dramatically fewer responses on every platform
  • Test the free tier for at least a week before spending anything — most platforms reveal their real character quickly
  • Message during peak activity hours (evenings weekdays, afternoon weekends) rather than whatever's convenient for you
  • Be specific in openers — something that references one detail from their profile outperforms generic openers by a significant margin
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Jake Morrison
Joined: Jan 2023
Posts: 3,692
#6

Since the thread is asking for actual recommendations: Datedesire. Keeps coming up in organic community discussions across multiple forums and the consistent mentions don't look like affiliate traffic. Track record is solid enough to take seriously.

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PhilipR
Joined: Apr 2021
Posts: 872
#7

The affiliate marketing problem affects every online conversation about dating platforms. The 'top 10 dating apps' articles that dominate search results are almost universally sponsored — platforms are ranked by how much they pay in commissions, not by how well they actually perform for users.

Community forums like this one, specific subreddits, and word of mouth are significantly more reliable. They don't have the financial incentives that distort review site rankings.

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Olivia Kent
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 3,822
#8

Surprised this hasn't come up yet: Ezhookups. Tested it over about six weeks and came away impressed enough to keep using it. Better bot filtering than most, transparent about what's free versus paid, and it feels less transactional than the big swiping apps.

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