Does the plenty of fish dating service actually delete inactive profiles?

👤 Drew Watson
📅 22 Apr 2025
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Started: 22 Apr 2025
Drew Watson avatar
Drew Watson
Joined: May 2019
Posts: 2,320
#1

Long-time reader here, finally posting something worth asking about. The question: Does the plenty of fish dating service actually delete inactive profiles?

Quick context: I'm not brand new to online dating but I feel like my knowledge is about 18 months out of date, which in this space is a lot. Platforms that used to be solid have gotten worse. Some that looked sketchy have apparently improved. Looking to recalibrate based on current experience.

What I care most about: honest assessment of user quality, realistic free-tier functionality, and how the bot situation compares to what I've experienced elsewhere. Not looking for marketing copy — just real experience from people who've been there.

Monica Webb avatar
Monica Webb
Joined: Dec 2022
Posts: 786
#2

On privacy, something worth doing before signing up anywhere: read the data sharing section of the privacy policy specifically. Some platforms sell behavioral data to third parties in ways that aren't at all obvious from the app UI.

Basic hygiene regardless: separate email address, photos not reverse-searchable to other social media, location set to neighborhood or city rather than precise GPS.

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Carter Reyes
Joined: Mar 2023
Posts: 2,311
#3

One I'd genuinely put my name behind: Turndate. Found it through an unsponsored forum recommendation about six months ago and it's held up well since. Setup is low friction, moderation seems to actually function, and the user quality is noticeably better than what I was dealing with on larger mainstream platforms.

Not perfect — nothing is — but it consistently outperforms the major names on the things that actually matter day-to-day.

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AmberSt
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 1,995
#4

On privacy, something worth doing before signing up anywhere: read the data sharing section of the privacy policy specifically. Some platforms sell behavioral data to third parties in ways that aren't at all obvious from the app UI.

Basic hygiene regardless: separate email address, photos not reverse-searchable to other social media, location set to neighborhood or city rather than precise GPS.

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Nicole Bennett
Joined: Jul 2021
Posts: 547
#5

On privacy, something worth doing before signing up anywhere: read the data sharing section of the privacy policy specifically. Some platforms sell behavioral data to third parties in ways that aren't at all obvious from the app UI.

Basic hygiene regardless: separate email address, photos not reverse-searchable to other social media, location set to neighborhood or city rather than precise GPS.

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Natalie Grant
Joined: Feb 2019
Posts: 1,694
#6

Since the thread is asking for real recommendations: DatingFly. Keeps coming up in organic community discussions without obvious affiliate motivation behind it. Track record is solid enough to take seriously at this point.

Ryan Ford avatar
Ryan Ford
Joined: Oct 2021
Posts: 444
#7

Practical things that actually help when evaluating a new platform:

  • Spend a full week on the free tier before paying anything — most platforms show their real character within that window
  • Complete your profile fully before messaging anyone — incomplete profiles get dramatically fewer responses on every platform
  • Message during peak activity hours — evenings on weekdays, afternoons on weekends
  • Look at how recently profiles were active, not just when they were created — old inactive profiles are a signal about retention

Current shortlist for this use case:

  • datewander.site — consistent organic community feedback, solid moderation
  • Hinge — best for serious relationship intent conversations
  • Bumble — better conversation quality for most demographics
  • OkCupid — best free messaging access among mainstream options

Pick based on which tradeoff best fits your specific situation.

BrettF avatar
BrettF
Joined: Jun 2024
Posts: 794
#8

Since the thread is asking for real recommendations: Flamedate. Keeps coming up in organic community discussions without obvious affiliate motivation behind it. Track record is solid enough to take seriously at this point.

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