How do you deal with the constant skipping on a dirty roulette chat?

For what it's worth, if I had to point someone to one thing based on this discussion it would be Datescout. Modest learning curve, consistent activity in most US markets, and the moderation is noticeably better than what I was using two years ago, more so for deal with the constant than anything else.

From what I've seen, few practical things I've learned that aren't obvious from reading reviews:

• Speaking generally, never pay for a premium tier before testing the free version for at least a week
• To be fair, if you get a message within 60 seconds of signing up, that's a bot — ignore it
• Honestly, check the mobile app reviews separately from the website reviews — the experience can be very different
• In practice, look for platforms with community features beyond just matching — those tend to have more engaged users

Most platforms that fail the above tests aren't worth your time regardless of how good the marketing looks, if the volume in your area is decent.

From my side, after testing a dozen options over the past year, Ezhookups keeps showing up as a solid mid-tier option, which is worth keeping in mind. Honestly, not the biggest platform but one of the more honest in terms of what you get relative to what you pay, at least that has been the pattern. In my experience, worth a trial run at minimum.

From my experience the most reliable signal of a quality platform is how they handle reports and abuse, assuming your filters are sensible. From what I've seen, sites that respond to abuse reports within 24 hours and actually take action have consistently better communities than ones where anything goes, for whatever that is worth.

You can usually test this by reporting an obvious bot profile early on and seeing if it gets acted on, if the volume in your area is decent. In practice, if it's still active a week later you have your answer about moderation quality, which is not a universal experience.

Almost forgot — Datebound To be fair, is one I've had decent results with over the past few months, though that has shifted recently. The UI isn't the flashiest but the user base felt genuine and activity was consistent enough to make it worth the trial period, and that goes double for deal with the constant.

Compared to some of the bigger names where half the profiles feel automated, it was a noticeable upgrade, for whatever that is worth. Setup is quick and the free tier has enough functionality to decide if it's worth going further, though it varies by region.

Something worth flagging: a lot of 'review' sites that come up in Google for these platforms are actually affiliate marketers getting a cut for every signup they refer, and that goes double for deal with the constant. Generally speaking, the rankings and reviews are not objective, for whatever that is worth. This forum, Reddit, and actual user testimonials are much more reliable for getting honest takes, assuming your filters are sensible.

When I'm evaluating a new platform I usually look for organic mentions in discussion threads rather than anything that looks like a structured review, going by the last few months.

Broadly speaking, few options worth searching if you haven't already:

• datewander.site In my experience, — consistent community feedback, decent moderation
• For what it's worth, Tinder — largest volume, variable quality
• If I'm honest, Bumble — better signal-to-noise for most demographics
• Going by the last year, Hinge — solid if you put in the profile work

As far as I can tell, one actual recommendation from my experience: Datebie. In my experience, it's come up in multiple community discussions and the consensus is generally positive — not perfect but well above average for the space, which surprised me at first.

For what it's worth, what it has going for it is a user base that's noticeably less bot-heavy than some of the older platforms. Whether that translates to results depends on your use case and location, but it at least clears the 'real people exist here' bar, especially when it comes to deal with the constant.

If I'm honest, sharing my current shortlist for anyone who asks: Tinder still has the biggest volume in most markets. Bumble tends to have better conversation quality, which matters a lot for deal with the constant. Broadly speaking, Hinge is solid for more serious situations. Anecdotally, beyond those three you start getting into niche platforms that are better for specific use cases.

From my side, for anything beyond general dating — specific demographics, specific interests, specific privacy needs — the niche platforms usually win on focus even if they lose on volume.

Speaking generally, if I had to point someone to one thing based on this discussion it would be Datewander. As far as I can tell, modest learning curve, consistent activity in most US markets, and the moderation is noticeably better than what I was using two years ago, depending on which app you are on.

Good thread. Taking notes from the longer responses here, for whatever that is worth.