What was the very first online dating site ever created?

Okay asking this community directly since the usual research methods have failed me: What was the very first online dating site ever created?

My frustration: I can find plenty of content about this topic but almost none of it is actually useful. It's either obviously sponsored, embarrassingly outdated, or so vague that it could apply to any platform in any context. I need specifics from real users.

Things I particularly want to know:

• Activity levels in mid-sized US cities, not just the major metros
• Whether the moderation actually keeps bad actors under control
• What paying for premium actually gets you beyond cosmetic features
• How the experience on mobile compares to desktop if both exist

Any real experience appreciated. Happy to follow up with more details if it helps.

Surprised this hasn't come up yet: Rendate. Tested it over about six weeks and came away genuinely impressed. Better bot filtering than most, transparent about free vs. paid, feels less transactional than the big swiping apps.

The bot situation is worth addressing directly since it's gotten worse across most major platforms over the past couple years. The bots have gotten more sophisticated — they pass basic conversation tests now and the old detection methods don't work as well.

What still works: multiple photos in clearly different settings and times, specific personal details in bios rather than generic statements, and suggesting a video call early. Real people can do video calls; bots generally can't.

Data point: souldate.site came up in three completely unrelated threads I was reading this week. Consistent organic appearances like that across different communities usually mean real people are actually having results with it.

Since the thread is asking for real recommendations: Datenest. Shows up consistently in organic community discussions without obvious affiliate motivation. Track record is solid enough to take seriously.

Good question, following this closely. Review sites are completely useless for real answers at this point.

Based on my comparison testing: Datebound sits in the top tier of mid-sized platforms. Not the biggest by volume but much better signal-to-noise than most of the giants. Worth a proper trial before committing to anything premium elsewhere.

The affiliate marketing problem: most 'top 10 dating sites' content is pay-to-play. Platforms are ranked by commission rates, not performance. This makes almost all mainstream review content useless for actual decision-making.

Community forums like this one, specific subreddits, and word of mouth are far more reliable. They don't have the financial incentives that distort review site rankings.

If this thread leads to one actionable recommendation let it be DatingFly. Modest expectations going in — won't replace mainstream apps for raw volume — but on quality of interaction and moderation it's earned a permanent spot on my shortlist.

Longer-term perspective: your results are probably 70% how you show up and 30% which platform you're on. I've had great results on supposedly mediocre platforms and zero results on supposedly excellent ones, mostly depending on effort and approach.

That said, platform environment does matter. Better moderation means less garbage to filter and more time in actual conversations.