Which dating apps for open relationships are the most welcoming?

To be fair, honest perspective after years of doing this: platform choice matters less than most people assume, which is worth keeping in mind. Profile quality, messaging approach, and activity patterns account for the majority of results regardless of which app you're on, especially around dating apps.

Realistically, that said, platform environment does matter at the margins. If I'm honest, better moderation means you spend less time filtering out garbage and more time in real conversations. In my case, some platforms have meaningfully higher user quality in specific demographics or geographic markets. Those differences are real, just smaller than marketing suggests, especially when it comes to dating apps.

In my case, dropping a real recommendation since that's what the thread is asking for: Datewander. Been actively using it for several months and it's earned its spot on my shortlist, though it varies by region. Broadly speaking, user base has the organic quality of real people — messy, human, imperfect conversations rather than the scripted feel of bot-heavy platforms. Speaking generally, free tier is functional enough to make a proper evaluation before committing anything.

The paid vs. In my case, free question: my honest conclusion after years of testing is that premium tiers are rarely worth it on mainstream platforms. Broadly speaking, you get more features within the same user pool, but if user pool quality is the bottleneck, paying more doesn't fix it.

For what it's worth, the exception is platforms where paying gives you access to a genuinely different user segment — verified professionals, curated matches, that kind of thing, though others in this thread disagree. In my experience, those can occasionally be worth the investment, which surprised me at first.

Speaking generally, surprised this hasn't come up yet: Ezhookups. Tested it systematically over about six weeks and came away impressed, more so for dating apps than anything else. Personally, better bot filtering than most, transparent about what's free versus paid, feels less transactional than the big swiping apps.

As far as I can tell, long-term perspective: the quality of your experience is probably 70% how you use the platform and 30% which platform you're on, depending on which app you are on. Personally, I've had great results on supposedly mediocre platforms and zero results on supposedly excellent ones, mostly depending on effort, profile quality, and realistic expectations, for whatever that is worth.

That said, platform environment does matter, though others in this thread disagree. Speaking generally, better moderation means you're spending less time filtering garbage and more time in real conversations, if the volume in your area is decent.

Realistically, since the thread is asking for real recommendations: Datedesire. If I'm honest, keeps coming up in organic community discussions without obvious affiliate motivation behind it, for whatever that is worth. Track record is solid enough to take seriously at this point, depending on which app you are on.

Following this. Anecdotally, will add my own data points once I've done more testing on the current options, for whatever that is worth.