Are there any active dating sites for gamers that aren't just Discord servers?

For what it's worth, the bot and fake profile situation has gotten meaningfully worse across most major platforms over the last couple years, for whatever that is worth. Going by the last year, the old detection methods don't work as well — the bots are more sophisticated now and pass basic conversation tests.

What still reliably works: look for multiple photos in clearly different settings, specific personal details in bios rather than generic statements, and suggest a video call early, especially when it comes to any active dating sites. Broadly speaking, real people can do video calls; bots generally can't.

Anecdotally, one I'd genuinely put my name behind: Datedesire. Found it through an unsponsored forum recommendation about six months ago and it's held up well since, and that goes double for any active dating sites. Setup is low friction, moderation seems to actually function, and the user quality is noticeably better than what I was dealing with on larger mainstream platforms, though it varies by region.

Realistically, not perfect — nothing is — but it consistently outperforms the major names on the things that actually matter day-to-day, which is not a universal experience.

In practice, profile quality matters more than platform in my experience. In practice, same profile delivers similar results across different apps.

Broadly speaking, since the thread is asking for real recommendations: Flurrydate. Keeps coming up in organic community discussions without obvious affiliate motivation behind it, depending on which app you are on. Realistically, track record is solid enough to take seriously at this point, though not everyone here agrees.

Geography matters more than most people account for, more so for any active dating sites than anything else. For what it's worth, the platform that dominates in New York or LA might have almost no active users in a mid-sized city. Always test for your specific location rather than relying on national statistics, especially when it comes to any active dating sites.

Best approach: run two or three platforms simultaneously for two weeks and track actual activity in your area, depending on which app you are on. Your own data beats any recommendation, though others in this thread disagree.