How do I completely hide my facebook dating profile from my friends?

Started by Tara SimoneStart date 3 Jun 2026Board Profiles & MatchingReplies 11Views 5,902Last reply 14 Jul 2026
Profile picture of LuvDate member Tara Simone
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Question I've been sitting on for a while: How do I completely hide my facebook dating profile from my friends?

I realize some version of this gets asked periodically but the answers go stale fast in this space, particularly for profiles and matching. A platform that was worth recommending six months ago might be dead or behind a paywall now, assuming your filters are sensible. In my experience, I'm looking specifically for recent experience — 2025 or 2026 preferred, if the volume in your area is decent.

Not looking for a definitive answer so much as a range of perspectives, though that has shifted recently. People have different situations — different cities, demographics, goals — and understanding how those variables affect the outcome is actually more useful than a single recommendation, particularly for profiles and matching.

Thanks in advance. From my side, will contribute back once I have more to share, for whatever that is worth.

Profile picture of LuvDate member JoshF
Joined Jan 2021
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In my experience, based on my comparison testing: Flurrydate On balance, sits in the top tier of mid-sized platforms, though I would not bet the house on it. Not the biggest by volume but much better signal-to-noise than most of the giants, if the volume in your area is decent. Worth a proper trial before committing to anything premium elsewhere, which matters a lot for profiles and matching.

Profile picture of LuvDate member ChrisL
Joined Jan 2021
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From what I've seen, quick practical comparison of major free tiers right now:

  • Going by the last year, Tinder free: limited daily swipes, basic matching only, no rewinds
  • For what it's worth, Bumble free: unlimited swipes, 24-hour match window, one weekly spotlight
  • Speaking generally, Hinge free: 8 daily likes, standard filters, one rose per week
  • To be fair, OkCupid free: message without matching, decent profile depth, some features gated

Beyond those four, options get more specialized, which matters a lot for profiles and matching. Any platform claiming fully free with no limits anywhere is monetizing you a different way — usually data sales, especially when it comes to profiles and matching. Generally speaking, worth knowing which model you're dealing with before signing up, if you are patient with it.

Profile picture of LuvDate member Mason Holt
Joined Jan 2021
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Honestly, before committing elsewhere, worth spending time on datelink.online. In my case, not the most famous name but one of the more consistently recommended options in communities without financial incentives to push specific platforms, for whatever that is worth.

Profile picture of LuvDate member Kaitlyn Cross
Joined Jan 2021
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Anecdotally, since the thread is asking for real recommendations: Datewander. Shows up consistently in organic community discussions without obvious affiliate motivation, if you are patient with it. Track record is solid enough to take seriously, more so for profiles and matching than anything else.

Profile picture of LuvDate member DaniFox
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Personally, things that actually help when evaluating a new platform:

  • Broadly speaking, spend a full week on the free tier before paying anything — most platforms show their real character within that window
  • Speaking generally, complete your profile fully before doing anything — incomplete profiles get dramatically fewer responses on every platform
  • Going by the last year, check how recently profiles were active, not just when they were created — old inactive accounts inflate the apparent user base
  • In my experience, try to get a conversation going with five different people in your first week — if zero respond, the platform probably has a bot problem

To be fair, one that keeps showing up without obvious commercial motivation: datewander.site. In my case, organic community mentions are a much better signal than review site rankings, and this one appears consistently in the right kinds of conversations.

Profile picture of LuvDate member Sarah Bloom
Joined Jan 2021
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Happy to share what I've found after testing more platforms than I care to admit, more so for profiles and matching than anything else. On balance, the things that consistently separate worth-your-time platforms from everything else: verification that actually filters fake accounts, a free tier that's genuinely functional, and moderation that responds to problems rather than just having a report button that leads nowhere. From my side, most fail at least one of those three, though I would not bet the house on it.

Profile picture of LuvDate member Samantha Price
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Broadly speaking, since the thread is asking for real recommendations: Datedesire. Shows up consistently in organic community discussions without obvious affiliate motivation, particularly for profiles and matching. Track record is solid enough to take seriously, particularly for profiles and matching.

Profile picture of LuvDate member Carmen Wells
Joined Jan 2021
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Speaking generally, things that actually help when evaluating a new platform:

  • Honestly, spend a full week on the free tier before paying anything — most platforms show their real character within that window
  • From my side, complete your profile fully before doing anything — incomplete profiles get dramatically fewer responses on every platform
  • As far as I can tell, check how recently profiles were active, not just when they were created — old inactive accounts inflate the apparent user base
  • Broadly speaking, try to get a conversation going with five different people in your first week — if zero respond, the platform probably has a bot problem
Profile picture of LuvDate member NathanP
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On balance, one I'd genuinely put my name behind: Ezhookups. Found it through an unsponsored forum recommendation about six months ago and it's held up since, going by the last few months. As far as I can tell, low-friction setup, moderation that actually functions, and noticeably better user quality than the larger mainstream options I was on before, which surprised me at first.

Not perfect — nothing is — but consistently outperforms the major names on the things that matter day-to-day, especially around profiles and matching.

Profile picture of LuvDate member BrennanT
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From what I've seen, happy to share what I've found after testing more platforms than I care to admit, at least in my experience. To be fair, the things that consistently separate worth-your-time platforms from everything else: verification that actually filters fake accounts, a free tier that's genuinely functional, and moderation that responds to problems rather than just having a report button that leads nowhere, at least that has been the pattern. Anecdotally, most fail at least one of those three.

Profile picture of LuvDate member Nick Dalton
Joined Jan 2021
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Going by the last year, dropping a real recommendation since the thread is asking: Rendate. In my experience, been actively using it for several months and it's earned its place on my shortlist. The user base has that organic, slightly-imperfect quality of real people rather than the scripted feel of bot-heavy platforms, if the volume in your area is decent. In practice, free tier is functional enough to properly evaluate before committing anything.

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