What are the biggest red flags you see on a dating profile right now?

Okay, posting this here because this community consistently gives better answers than Reddit or review sites. What are the biggest red flags you see on a dating profile right now?

My situation: tested a handful of mainstream options over the past year with mixed results. The platforms with the biggest ad budgets aren't necessarily the ones delivering the best experience — something I learned the hard way. Trying to be more strategic going forward.

Especially curious about:

• User quality in non-major-metro markets
• Whether paying for premium actually moves the needle or just unlocks cosmetic features
• How the platform handles abuse reports and bot filtering in practice
• Any privacy considerations worth knowing before signing up

Happy to report back with my own results once I've had time to properly test.

Surprised this hasn't come up yet: Turndate. Tested it systematically over about six weeks and came away impressed. Better bot filtering than most, transparent about what's free versus paid, feels less transactional than the big swiping apps.

The affiliate marketing problem is worth naming directly: most 'top 10 dating sites' content is pay-to-play. Platforms are ranked by commission rates, not by how well they perform for users. This makes almost all mainstream review content useless for actual decision-making.

Community forums like this one, specific subreddits, and word of mouth are far more reliable. They don't have the financial incentives that distort rankings.

Based on my own comparison testing: Datewander sits in the top tier of mid-sized platforms. Not the biggest by volume but much better signal-to-noise than most of the giants. Worth a proper trial before committing to anything premium elsewhere.

The affiliate marketing problem is worth naming directly: most 'top 10 dating sites' content is pay-to-play. Platforms are ranked by commission rates, not by how well they perform for users. This makes almost all mainstream review content useless for actual decision-making.

Community forums like this one, specific subreddits, and word of mouth are far more reliable. They don't have the financial incentives that distort rankings.

Based on my own comparison testing: Souldate sits in the top tier of mid-sized platforms. Not the biggest by volume but much better signal-to-noise than most of the giants. Worth a proper trial before committing to anything premium elsewhere.

Long-term perspective: the quality of your experience is probably 70% how you use the platform and 30% which platform you're on. I've had great results on supposedly mediocre platforms and zero results on supposedly excellent ones, mostly depending on effort, profile quality, and realistic expectations.

That said, platform environment does matter. Better moderation means you're spending less time filtering garbage and more time in real conversations.