Going to ask this directly since the indirect route has been useless: What is the best dating site for married users seeking an affair?
As far as I can tell, what I've found through normal research is basically useless for making an actual decision, though that has shifted recently. To be fair, the top-ranked content is all affiliate-driven, though it varies by region. The app store reviews are heavily managed, at least that has been the pattern. For what it's worth, Reddit threads are better but still often dominated by a handful of power users with specific experiences that may not generalize.
Anecdotally, community forums like this one tend to have more actual diversity of experience, which is exactly what I need. Not one definitive answer — a range of experiences that helps me calibrate my own expectations going in, which is worth keeping in mind.
Thanks in advance for anything real, especially when it comes to best dating site. Happy to share back once I've spent more time testing, especially around best dating site.