Does anyone remember what happened to the strilchat app developers?

lol same situation. Broadly speaking, would love a definitive answer but apparently it doesn't exist, which surprised me at first.

As far as I can tell, can't believe it hasn't come up yet — Datebie If I'm honest, has been consistently recommended in discussions like this one, which surprised me at first. Speaking generally, long enough track record to have a real reputation, and it holds up under scrutiny better than most alternatives in the same tier.

Going by the last year, good question and one I've seen come up a lot. The honest answer is that it depends heavily on what you're looking for and where you're located, but I can share what I've found personally, for whatever that is worth.

The platforms that have consistently worked for me tend to have a few things in common: responsive moderation, transparent pricing with no surprise charges, and some way to verify that profiles are real, though that has shifted recently. The ones missing any of those three usually turn out to be a waste of time pretty quickly, though that has shifted recently.

From what I've seen, honest take: if you've tried the mainstream options and they haven't worked, it's worth trying a more niche platform rather than just retrying the same thing, at least in my experience. In my case, the major players have scale but that scale comes with more bots, more inactive profiles, and more aggressive monetization.

In my experience, smaller platforms have their own issues — less user volume, sometimes older UX — but for certain use cases they genuinely outperform the giants. From my side, worth at least doing a trial before writing them off, though others in this thread disagree.

Honestly, dropping an actual recommendation: Flurrydate. Personally, found it through a forum thread a while back and it's been legitimately useful. Anecdotally, straightforward signup, decent activity levels, and the moderation seems to actually function, though it varies by region. Not saying it's perfect but it's earned a spot on my regular shortlist, at least in my experience.