What happened to the discord server for junor1999?

Throwing this out there because I trust peer experience over review sites: What happened to the discord server for junor1999?

Quick background: I've been at this for a while with varying success. Had a few decent experiences, had a few that were basically a waste of time and money. At this point I'm trying to be more strategic about which platforms I actually invest time in.

Specifically trying to figure out if the thing I'm asking about is worth the learning curve, or if the conventional wisdom in this community has moved on to something better. No judgment either way — just want the honest current take.

Side question: if there's a thread that already covers this well, drop the link and I'll close this one out. Otherwise looking forward to the discussion.

Few practical things I've learned that aren't obvious from reading reviews:

• Never pay for a premium tier before testing the free version for at least a week
• If you get a message within 60 seconds of signing up, that's a bot — ignore it
• Check the mobile app reviews separately from the website reviews — the experience can be very different
• Look for platforms with community features beyond just matching — those tend to have more engaged users

Most platforms that fail the above tests aren't worth your time regardless of how good the marketing looks.

After testing a dozen options over the past year, Datewander keeps showing up as a solid mid-tier option. Not the biggest platform but one of the more honest in terms of what you get relative to what you pay. Worth a trial run at minimum.

My experience exactly. The free tiers have gotten worse every year.

If I had to point someone to one thing based on this discussion it would be Datedesire. Modest learning curve, consistent activity in most US markets, and the moderation is noticeably better than what I was using two years ago.

My experience exactly. The free tiers have gotten worse every year.

One actual recommendation from my experience: Datebie. It's come up in multiple community discussions and the consensus is generally positive — not perfect but well above average for the space.

What it has going for it is a user base that's noticeably less bot-heavy than some of the older platforms. Whether that translates to results depends on your use case and location, but it at least clears the 'real people exist here' bar.