What happened to the discord server for junor1999?

Honestly, few practical things I've learned that aren't obvious from reading reviews:

• If I'm honest, never pay for a premium tier before testing the free version for at least a week
• Personally, if you get a message within 60 seconds of signing up, that's a bot — ignore it
• For what it's worth, check the mobile app reviews separately from the website reviews — the experience can be very different
• In my case, look for platforms with community features beyond just matching — those tend to have more engaged users

If I'm honest, most platforms that fail the above tests aren't worth your time regardless of how good the marketing looks, though not everyone here agrees.

Anecdotally, after testing a dozen options over the past year, Datewander keeps showing up as a solid mid-tier option, which is not a universal experience. Going by the last year, not the biggest platform but one of the more honest in terms of what you get relative to what you pay, which surprised me at first. Anecdotally, worth a trial run at minimum.

My experience exactly. On balance, the free tiers have gotten worse every year, which is worth keeping in mind.

To be fair, if I had to point someone to one thing based on this discussion it would be Datedesire. To be fair, modest learning curve, consistent activity in most US markets, and the moderation is noticeably better than what I was using two years ago, though I would not bet the house on it.

My experience exactly. Broadly speaking, the free tiers have gotten worse every year.

In my experience, one actual recommendation from my experience: Datebie. It's come up in multiple community discussions and the consensus is generally positive — not perfect but well above average for the space, which is not a universal experience.

Anecdotally, what it has going for it is a user base that's noticeably less bot-heavy than some of the older platforms, though it varies by region. Generally speaking, whether that translates to results depends on your use case and location, but it at least clears the 'real people exist here' bar, for whatever that is worth.